"change everything so as to change nothing!"

- Russian proverb

"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before."

"If I could have one lifetime wish, one wish that would come true, I'd pray to God with all my heart, for yesterday...and you!"

'We, after all, live in a world where illusions are sacred and truth profane'

- Tariq Ali

“We live in an age disturbed, confused, bewildered, afraid of its own forces, in search not merely of its road but even of its direction”

- Woodrow T. Wilson

"Usually the simple act of contemplating the possibility of having a Plan B creates the necessity for having one."

-S.R. Pandi-Perumal

"Have faith in your dreams and someday your rainbow will come smiling through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true".

"Some people are too tired to give you a smile, so give them one of yours as no one needs a smile as much as the one who has no more to give!"

"An apology benefits the person giving it as much (or often more) than the person receiving it. This thought sometimes helps people get past the difficulty of apologizing sincerely when they really believe the other party contributed in some way to the problem.

The advantage of this approach is that it allows the "apologizer" to maintain their boundary and a sense of personal power because they are in control of the decision to apologize. It is entirely up to the other person whether they will accept the apology. One can sincerely apologize and move on even if the apology is not accepted. I wanted to underscore this point"

“To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible deception; it is an eternal loss for which there is no reparation, either in time or in eternity”

- Soren Kierkegaard

Love is so very special
Yet can make you feel so lost
It can arrive just like the springtime
And melt away like morning frost

You must find ways to nurture
Always grow your love with care
Never ever take for granted
The love that you both share

Mistakes are bound to happen
You may hurt each other's heart
Yet don't give up to easily
It will tear your love apart

Love resembles a bright flame
That lights a dark starry night
Never ever let this flame burn down
Rekindle with all your might

Take a moment every day
Look deep into each other's eyes
Never hesitate to show affection
Small gestures will keep a love alive

Talk openly about your feelings
Take time to show that you care
Treasure each and every moment
Because to find true love is rare

- Connie Thomas Lugo

"The least of things with a meaning is worth more in life than the greatest of things without it"

'The walls we build around us to keep out the sadness also keep out the joy'.

- Jim Rohn

"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable".

- Sydney J. Harris

“Look for a sweet person. Forget rich.”

- Estee Lauder

“A married couple are well suited when both partners usually feel the need for a quarrel at the same time.”

- Jean Rostand

"Feeling this love for one another
meant our hearts were beginning
to open again. It was a risk -
love brought with it the
ever-present possibility of loss.
But this was s risk worth taking.
More than ever, we understand
how important it was to put love
at the center of our Lives!"

- Love You, Mean It
Carrington et al., 2006

In this short and simple Aesop’s fable (a fable is a very short story which is meant to illustrate a point or teach us a lesson. Usually, but not always, fables are stories about animals that talk like people. The lesson that a fable teaches us is called a moral), a scorpion, who couldn’t swim, asked a frog to carry him across the river on her back. The frog hesitated, saying, “I’m afraid you will attack me.” But the scorpion pointed out that it wouldn’t be in his interest to do that, because, if the frog died in the water, he would drown. So she consented.

As they were half way across the water, the scorpion suddenly whipped up his tail and stung the frog hard. As the poison spread through the frog and she began to sink, she whispered, “Why? Why did you do that, when now we must both die?”

“Because,” the scorpion replied sadly, “it’s in my nature to sting. I’m sorry.” As he spoke, they both disappeared beneath the water. The moral of the fable is that we can’t overcome our nature, even if it works against our interest.

However this story may seem negative; it is an example of what happens to us when we don’t pay attention to the "nature" of the individuals around us. Some are trustworthy and honorable while there are others who we say "you shouldn’t trust ‘em as far as you could throw ‘em."

One of the earliest known quotations is in a movie by Orson Welles, Confidential Report (1955 – based on his novel Mr. Arkadin). The concept is applied in all sorts of ways to analyses of history, or of recent events, on the “dark” side of human behavior.

There are, of course, elaborations. What if the scorpion wants to kill the frog as soon as they get to the other side of the river? Or will the frog drop the scorpion in the water to eat it when it’s drowned? Or could both be eaten by a fish or a bird? Etcetera. But the true meaning of the story is in it’s simplest form.

“Love is the expression of one's values, the greatest reward you can earn for the moral qualities you have achieved in your character and person, the emotional price paid by one man for the joy he receives from the virtues of another.”

- Ayn Rand

"The kind of seed sown
will produce that kind of fruit.
Those who do good will reap good results.
Those who do evil will reap evil results.
If you carefully plant a good seed,
You will joyfully gather good fruit."

- Dhammapada

"There is happiness in life,
happiness in friendship,
happiness of a family,
happiness in a healthy body and mind,
...but when one loses them, there is suffering."

- Dhammapada

"No object is so beautiful that, under certain conditions, it will not look ugly"

- Oscar Wilde

'Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trial'

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Top-10 Favorite Phrases of the Emotionally Constipated

10. Best friend? I don't like to think in those terms.
(Translation: I am secretly in love with my best friend).

9. I like to compartmentalize people, doesn't everyone?
(Translation: I will never, ever, ever let you in).

8. Don't you think you should reconsider whether it really isn't all your fault?
(Translation: I blame myself for other people's neuroses).

7. Once I got over him five years ago, I never thought of him again, the looser...
(Translation: I have no clue about my own neuroses).

6. No, really, I'm over it.
(Translation: I am so not over it).

5. I love separate vacations.
(Translation: Well, from you).

4. I'll deal with it in my own time.
(Translation: I will be dragged to my grave with fingernails clawing into the earth just so that I don't ever have to deal with it).

3. I know everyone thinks 12-step is a big cult...
(Translation: I am about to use 12-step to justify being a looser to you).

2. I know you're unhappy, but I'm so tired of hearing about your life.
(Translation: Can we talk about me, now?).

And finally, the #1, favorite phrase of the emotionally constipated...

1. I already told you I loved you once today, you know the rule.
(Translation: None needed).

“You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don't make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can't take their eyes off you".

- Maya Angelou quotes (American Poet, b.1928)

'True love has lots of power and energy embedded within it'

- S.R. Pandi-Perumal

'In life, we are defined by our regrets just as much as our accomplishments'

'Life is all about making the right choices or else taking calculated risks'

- S.R. Pandi-Perumal

'Divorce' can be the devastating experience in someone's life. The toll is huge and it will take many months for the positive aspects to begin to develop. If, indeed happens, you must always focus on the positive aspects of your life. Soon you will learn some important things about life, others, and yourself. You will also realize a clearer perspective on life. You will begin to see things today you never saw before!'

In other words....

'Divorce' can be the most devastating experience in an individual's life. The impact is huge and recovery may take many months. The return to normality is best achieved through positive thinking and focussing on the achievements and successes of one's life. Almost all who have emerged from this experience have gained new insights and learned important lessons about life, others and themselves. What also changes is the perspective one has for events in the present; the affected person begins to see things today he/she never saw before!'

-S.R. Pandi-Perumal

'Life is filled with existential crises.
It's what makes everything interesting'

-S.R. Pandi-Perumal

'Live today for today.
Tomorrow will take care of itself.
If tomorrow never comes
you had a beautiful yesterday'

'Nobody knows it, but you've got a secret smile, and you use it only for me'.

'My momma always said life was like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get'.

- Forrest Gump

'You can't express every feeling that you have every moment that you have them'.

- When Harry Met Sally

“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you”

- Friedrich Nietzsche

'follow your dreams'

'But better to get hurt by the truth than
comforted with a lie'

- The Kite Runner, Khaled Hosseini, 2003

'A devotee of truth may not do anything in deference to convention. He must always hold himself open to correction, and whenever he discovers himself to be wrong he must confess it all costs and atone for it'.

- Mahatma Gandhi in “My Experiments with Truth” Part 4 – Chapter 39.

'To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world'

Olivia: You are the weakest link, goodbye. (laughter)

Stewie: Ha ha ha! Oh gosh that's funny! That's really funny! Do you write your own material? Do you? Because that is so fresh. You are the weakest link goodbye. You know, I've, I've never heard anyone make that joke before. Hmm. You're the first. I've never heard anyone reference, reference that outside the program before. Because that's what she says on the show right? Isn't it? You are the weakest link goodbye. And, and yet you've taken that and used it out of context to insult me in this everyday situation. God what a clever, smart girl you must be, to come up with a joke like that all by yourself. That's so fresh too. Any, any Titanic jokes you want to throw at me too as long as we're hitting these phenomena at the height of their popularity. God you're so funny!

'Better never to have met you in my dream than to wake and reach for hands that are not there'.

- Otomo No Yakamochi

'There is a special bond between twin soul mates--unconditional love, respect for each other, bringing out the best in each other, and highly compatible'.

- Mettrie L.

'When it comes to the future, there are three kinds of people: those who let it happen, those who make it happen, and those who wonder what happened'.

- John M. Richardson, Jr.

“Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain”.

'When you are loved, you can do anything in creation. When you are loved, there's no need at all to understand what's happening, because everything happens within you'.

- The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho

'The gulls who scorn perfection for the sake of travel go nowhere, slowly.
Those who put aside travel for the sake of perfection go anywhere, instantly'.


- from "Jonathan Livingston Seagull"

'If our friendship depends on things like space and time, then when we finally overcome space and time, we've destroyed our own brotherhood! But overcome space, and all we have left is Here. Overcome time, and all we have left is Now. And in the middle of Here and Now, don't you think that we might see each other once or twice?'.


- from "Jonathan Livingston Seagull"

For most gulls, it is not flying that matters, but eating.
For this gull, though, it was not eating that mattered, but flight'.


- from "Jonathan Livingston Seagull"'

"Jonathan Livingston Seagull is the first book by Richard Bach that I ever read. I was seven the first time I read it, and said to myself, wow, wasn't that a nice story about a bird who learned how to fly, and taught others how to fly. I read it again, for a second time, when I was sixteen, and saw something I clearly missed the first time. What I saw was the potential inherent in not just one seagull, but in every living being, and how fortunate are those of us who are brave enough to follow it. What I've learned is that what I saw was not the potential to succeed, to become famous, rich, powerful, or even glorious. What I saw was the potential to love -- to follow your love, to hold it in your heart, to cherish it, and to let it flourish with you. And what I've discovered only very recently is that the potential to love is there, inside all of us; and when we choose to share that love with one another, it's the most beautiful thing that we can do".

-Quoted by Ethan R. Siegel PhD., University of Florida.

"When you kill a man, you steal a life," Baba said. "You steal his wife's right to a husband, rob his children of a father. When you tell a lie, you steal someone's right to the truth. When you cheat, you steal the right to fairness. Do you see?".

The Kite Runner, Khaled Hosseini, 2003

'On a high mountain I stood,
And cried the name of Ali, Lion of God.
O Ali, Lion of God, King of Men,
Bring joy to our sorrowful hearts!'

-The Kite Runner, Khaled Hosseini, 2003