Friday, December 21, 2007
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Saturday, December 8, 2007
Friday, December 7, 2007
"An apology benefits the person giving it as much (or often more) than the person receiving it. This thought sometimes helps people get past the difficulty of apologizing sincerely when they really believe the other party contributed in some way to the problem.
The advantage of this approach is that it allows the "apologizer" to maintain their boundary and a sense of personal power because they are in control of the decision to apologize. It is entirely up to the other person whether they will accept the apology. One can sincerely apologize and move on even if the apology is not accepted. I wanted to underscore this point"
Thursday, December 6, 2007
Love is so very special
Yet can make you feel so lost
It can arrive just like the springtime
And melt away like morning frost
You must find ways to nurture
Always grow your love with care
Never ever take for granted
The love that you both share
Mistakes are bound to happen
You may hurt each other's heart
Yet don't give up to easily
It will tear your love apart
Love resembles a bright flame
That lights a dark starry night
Never ever let this flame burn down
Rekindle with all your might
Take a moment every day
Look deep into each other's eyes
Never hesitate to show affection
Small gestures will keep a love alive
Talk openly about your feelings
Take time to show that you care
Treasure each and every moment
Because to find true love is rare
- Connie Thomas Lugo
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
"Feeling this love for one another
meant our hearts were beginning
to open again. It was a risk -
love brought with it the
ever-present possibility of loss.
But this was s risk worth taking.
More than ever, we understand
how important it was to put love
at the center of our Lives!"
- Love You, Mean It
Carrington et al., 2006
Thursday, November 15, 2007
In this short and simple Aesop’s fable (a fable is a very short story which is meant to illustrate a point or teach us a lesson. Usually, but not always, fables are stories about animals that talk like people. The lesson that a fable teaches us is called a moral), a scorpion, who couldn’t swim, asked a frog to carry him across the river on her back. The frog hesitated, saying, “I’m afraid you will attack me.” But the scorpion pointed out that it wouldn’t be in his interest to do that, because, if the frog died in the water, he would drown. So she consented.
As they were half way across the water, the scorpion suddenly whipped up his tail and stung the frog hard. As the poison spread through the frog and she began to sink, she whispered, “Why? Why did you do that, when now we must both die?”
“Because,” the scorpion replied sadly, “it’s in my nature to sting. I’m sorry.” As he spoke, they both disappeared beneath the water. The moral of the fable is that we can’t overcome our nature, even if it works against our interest.
However this story may seem negative; it is an example of what happens to us when we don’t pay attention to the "nature" of the individuals around us. Some are trustworthy and honorable while there are others who we say "you shouldn’t trust ‘em as far as you could throw ‘em."
One of the earliest known quotations is in a movie by Orson Welles, Confidential Report (1955 – based on his novel Mr. Arkadin). The concept is applied in all sorts of ways to analyses of history, or of recent events, on the “dark” side of human behavior.
There are, of course, elaborations. What if the scorpion wants to kill the frog as soon as they get to the other side of the river? Or will the frog drop the scorpion in the water to eat it when it’s drowned? Or could both be eaten by a fish or a bird? Etcetera. But the true meaning of the story is in it’s simplest form.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Friday, November 9, 2007
Thursday, November 8, 2007
The Top-10 Favorite Phrases of the Emotionally Constipated
10. Best friend? I don't like to think in those terms.
(Translation: I am secretly in love with my best friend).
9. I like to compartmentalize people, doesn't everyone?
(Translation: I will never, ever, ever let you in).
8. Don't you think you should reconsider whether it really isn't all your fault?
(Translation: I blame myself for other people's neuroses).
7. Once I got over him five years ago, I never thought of him again, the looser...
(Translation: I have no clue about my own neuroses).
6. No, really, I'm over it.
(Translation: I am so not over it).
5. I love separate vacations.
(Translation: Well, from you).
4. I'll deal with it in my own time.
(Translation: I will be dragged to my grave with fingernails clawing into the earth just so that I don't ever have to deal with it).
3. I know everyone thinks 12-step is a big cult...
(Translation: I am about to use 12-step to justify being a looser to you).
2. I know you're unhappy, but I'm so tired of hearing about your life.
(Translation: Can we talk about me, now?).
And finally, the #1, favorite phrase of the emotionally constipated...
1. I already told you I loved you once today, you know the rule.
(Translation: None needed).
Monday, November 5, 2007
Friday, October 19, 2007
'Divorce' can be the devastating experience in someone's life. The toll is huge and it will take many months for the positive aspects to begin to develop. If, indeed happens, you must always focus on the positive aspects of your life. Soon you will learn some important things about life, others, and yourself. You will also realize a clearer perspective on life. You will begin to see things today you never saw before!'
In other words....
'Divorce' can be the most devastating experience in an individual's life. The impact is huge and recovery may take many months. The return to normality is best achieved through positive thinking and focussing on the achievements and successes of one's life. Almost all who have emerged from this experience have gained new insights and learned important lessons about life, others and themselves. What also changes is the perspective one has for events in the present; the affected person begins to see things today he/she never saw before!'
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Monday, October 8, 2007
'A devotee of truth may not do anything in deference to convention. He must always hold himself open to correction, and whenever he discovers himself to be wrong he must confess it all costs and atone for it'.
- Mahatma Gandhi in “My Experiments with Truth” Part 4 – Chapter 39.
Friday, October 5, 2007
Olivia: You are the weakest link, goodbye. (laughter)
Stewie: Ha ha ha! Oh gosh that's funny! That's really funny! Do you write your own material? Do you? Because that is so fresh. You are the weakest link goodbye. You know, I've, I've never heard anyone make that joke before. Hmm. You're the first. I've never heard anyone reference, reference that outside the program before. Because that's what she says on the show right? Isn't it? You are the weakest link goodbye. And, and yet you've taken that and used it out of context to insult me in this everyday situation. God what a clever, smart girl you must be, to come up with a joke like that all by yourself. That's so fresh too. Any, any Titanic jokes you want to throw at me too as long as we're hitting these phenomena at the height of their popularity. God you're so funny!
Thursday, October 4, 2007
'If our friendship depends on things like space and time, then when we finally overcome space and time, we've destroyed our own brotherhood! But overcome space, and all we have left is Here. Overcome time, and all we have left is Now. And in the middle of Here and Now, don't you think that we might see each other once or twice?'.
- from "Jonathan Livingston Seagull"
For most gulls, it is not flying that matters, but eating.
For this gull, though, it was not eating that mattered, but flight'.
- from "Jonathan Livingston Seagull"'
"Jonathan Livingston Seagull is the first book by Richard Bach that I ever read. I was seven the first time I read it, and said to myself, wow, wasn't that a nice story about a bird who learned how to fly, and taught others how to fly. I read it again, for a second time, when I was sixteen, and saw something I clearly missed the first time. What I saw was the potential inherent in not just one seagull, but in every living being, and how fortunate are those of us who are brave enough to follow it. What I've learned is that what I saw was not the potential to succeed, to become famous, rich, powerful, or even glorious. What I saw was the potential to love -- to follow your love, to hold it in your heart, to cherish it, and to let it flourish with you. And what I've discovered only very recently is that the potential to love is there, inside all of us; and when we choose to share that love with one another, it's the most beautiful thing that we can do".
-Quoted by Ethan R. Siegel PhD., University of Florida.
"When you kill a man, you steal a life," Baba said. "You steal his wife's right to a husband, rob his children of a father. When you tell a lie, you steal someone's right to the truth. When you cheat, you steal the right to fairness. Do you see?".
The Kite Runner, Khaled Hosseini, 2003