Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
"Feeling this love for one another
meant our hearts were beginning
to open again. It was a risk -
love brought with it the
ever-present possibility of loss.
But this was s risk worth taking.
More than ever, we understand
how important it was to put love
at the center of our Lives!"
- Love You, Mean It
Carrington et al., 2006
Thursday, November 15, 2007
In this short and simple Aesop’s fable (a fable is a very short story which is meant to illustrate a point or teach us a lesson. Usually, but not always, fables are stories about animals that talk like people. The lesson that a fable teaches us is called a moral), a scorpion, who couldn’t swim, asked a frog to carry him across the river on her back. The frog hesitated, saying, “I’m afraid you will attack me.” But the scorpion pointed out that it wouldn’t be in his interest to do that, because, if the frog died in the water, he would drown. So she consented.
As they were half way across the water, the scorpion suddenly whipped up his tail and stung the frog hard. As the poison spread through the frog and she began to sink, she whispered, “Why? Why did you do that, when now we must both die?”
“Because,” the scorpion replied sadly, “it’s in my nature to sting. I’m sorry.” As he spoke, they both disappeared beneath the water. The moral of the fable is that we can’t overcome our nature, even if it works against our interest.
However this story may seem negative; it is an example of what happens to us when we don’t pay attention to the "nature" of the individuals around us. Some are trustworthy and honorable while there are others who we say "you shouldn’t trust ‘em as far as you could throw ‘em."
One of the earliest known quotations is in a movie by Orson Welles, Confidential Report (1955 – based on his novel Mr. Arkadin). The concept is applied in all sorts of ways to analyses of history, or of recent events, on the “dark” side of human behavior.
There are, of course, elaborations. What if the scorpion wants to kill the frog as soon as they get to the other side of the river? Or will the frog drop the scorpion in the water to eat it when it’s drowned? Or could both be eaten by a fish or a bird? Etcetera. But the true meaning of the story is in it’s simplest form.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Friday, November 9, 2007
Thursday, November 8, 2007
The Top-10 Favorite Phrases of the Emotionally Constipated
10. Best friend? I don't like to think in those terms.
(Translation: I am secretly in love with my best friend).
9. I like to compartmentalize people, doesn't everyone?
(Translation: I will never, ever, ever let you in).
8. Don't you think you should reconsider whether it really isn't all your fault?
(Translation: I blame myself for other people's neuroses).
7. Once I got over him five years ago, I never thought of him again, the looser...
(Translation: I have no clue about my own neuroses).
6. No, really, I'm over it.
(Translation: I am so not over it).
5. I love separate vacations.
(Translation: Well, from you).
4. I'll deal with it in my own time.
(Translation: I will be dragged to my grave with fingernails clawing into the earth just so that I don't ever have to deal with it).
3. I know everyone thinks 12-step is a big cult...
(Translation: I am about to use 12-step to justify being a looser to you).
2. I know you're unhappy, but I'm so tired of hearing about your life.
(Translation: Can we talk about me, now?).
And finally, the #1, favorite phrase of the emotionally constipated...
1. I already told you I loved you once today, you know the rule.
(Translation: None needed).